Finally, I am getting some help from Mental Health. I have been placed in a program called DBT (Dialectical Behavior Therapy.) It is aimed at helping people who use life-threatening behaviours as a way of coping with intense and unstable emotions. (eg. self harm, suicidal acts, unsafe sex, substance abuse, spending, binge eating) It is a skills-based training program which offers effective coping techniques, and an emphasis on accepting who you are.
There are 4 main modules taught in group:
1. Core mindfulness Skills - focuses on mindfulness to increase awareness of emotions and behaviours
2. Interpersonal Effectiveness Skills - focuses on learning to communicate needs effectively and dealing with interpersonal conflict
3. Emotion Regulation Skills - understanding emotions and learning how to reduce emotional vulnerability and decrease emotional suffering
4. Distress Tolerance Skills - increase one's ability to tolerate and survive crisis, and accept life as it is in the moment
I have been in DBT for about a month and a half now. I am learning new things each week. The skills are not coming naturally to me but as it is a year long therapy program I am sure a lot of the skills will eventually become second nature.
This past class we were learning about radical acceptance. About accepting what reality is, accepting that everything has a cause, and that life is worth living. Accepting something does not mean it's ok you are just accepting that it has occurred.
I am having a really hard time with this concept. There are some things in my life that I am just not accepting nor do I believe I ever will. How do I accept that I was abused? How do I accept my dad's death? I am hoping as we progress through DBT that I will become better able to accept this concept and practice it in my life. For now though I just have too many questions and want too many answers.